Balancing work and family is a difficult task. You want to work hard to support your beautiful family but you also need time to actually enjoy the family you’ve created. It can be difficult to find balance without upsetting your boss or clients, and without neglecting your spouse and kids.
How do you make time for fun when there’s so much work to do, and how do you get all of the work handled when you are prioritizing hobbies and a social life? Dad entrepreneurs sometimes have it the hardest because they may have difficulty saying “no” to new clients and they tend to over schedule themselves. This can make for a very unhappy family life. It’s a common problem and one that has some solutions if you are willing to make a few changes. Here is what dad entrepreneurs say about finding balance in their lives:
When you’re a full-time dad and full-time worker, you have to find a way to be present in whatever you are doing. If it’s family time, soak in the moment with your kids and spouse because they are going to grow up before you know it. Put social media and technology away so that you can enjoy your quality time with your family.
When it’s work time, stay focused on the task in order to get everything done efficiently and in a timely manner so that you can return to your family. Let your colleagues know not to bother you during family time unless it’s an absolute emergency, and ask your family to try to keep phone calls and text messages to a minimum during work hours.
Make your Weekends Count
Don’t stretch out the work week so that you can have an easier Monday through Friday while picking up the slack on Saturday. Work as hard as you can during the week in order to take a full weekend off. That way, your weekend is dedicated to just being a dad and not trying to perform a balancing act.
The weekends should be for soccer games, picnics at the park and watching movies, not being on a computer or your phone accomplishing work tasks. If this means getting up an extra hour early on weekdays or working a little late, it’ll be worth it when the weekend rolls around and you have time to refresh and be a dad.
Being a Father comes First
Remember that your main career is being a father. Your work career comes second. If someone asked you to pick between which is the higher priority, being a father should be the obvious choice. This means that you love your children with purpose, passion, authenticity and intention.
You can always find a new job or new clients but rebuilding a relationship with a neglected child is extremely difficult. Ask yourself what you’ll regret more on your death bed: choosing your kids too often above work or choosing work too often above the kids.
Lastly, make sure you are scheduling a weekly date night with the Mrs. This is vital to the success of your marriage. Also, give yourself enough time each month to have hobbies and social time with friends or extended family. All of these tips can make for a fulfilling home and work life.